My mind raced as my chest began to tighten with frustration. I felt as if I had worked so hard and it felt
to no avail. I was cleaning up and gaining sobriety because that is what “they”
wanted me to do. I wanted “them” off my
back and to stop their harsh tones and cutting looks.
Yet- I was not ready to take full responsibility for my own
condition. I was honestly in denial about the disease that had taken over my
life. I had no cares other than to shut
those up around me.
I had gone to rehab, I had been to jail, I had read books
and was bettering myself, but I held firm resentments to those who doubted me
and tended to highlight the negative far more than the positive.
They had not
been where I have and I couldn’t believe their audacity to judge or tell me how
I should be.
I have used those encounters and resentments to fund binges
so many times - I cannot even begin to explain.
A fire, a fury, would burn so hot in the pit of my stomach that the only
way I knew to extinguish it was to drown it in heroin.
The more I have struggled with this recovery dilemma, the
more I have come to understand it was and is all on me. The ball is completely in my court. Nothing anyone says or
does can affect me if I choose
to not allow it. Emotions, I have
learned, are choices but emotions are also key in decision making. If I chose to get high, it was because I chose
to get angry at someone’s ignorant comment or under-educated opinion. It was a vicious cycle, because at the end of
the day, I was the one ending up hurting, alone, often in a jail cell, or
detoxing in a pool of my own sweat.
The truth of it all is that I will never be perfect. None of
us are. The fact that I am an addict will show up in my life in many forms and
fashions – and not necessarily active addiction. I will struggle with having to recognize that
possibility in every aspect. People are
going to have things to say about my addiction, and will always doubt that
recovery is permanent.
The pure reality is that recovery is only about the one wishing to recover.
Recovery is as selfish as addiction.
No one else matters, because recovery is about regaining that person lost to addiction. Everything else positive after that related
to recovery is just a bonus.
If you want
to get clean, don’t let that “want”
be with someone else in mind. Do it for
yourself – and only for yourself. That’s the only way it will work.
People will doubt, they will be skeptical, and will tell you
how you should be or how you should do it.
They will more often than not, draw great light to the bumps in the road
versus the daily triumph that it is to stay clean – one day at a time. Allow
yourself a break, cut yourself some slack and don’t take on their negativity.
Few from the outside looking in will be likely to have much understanding
unless they, themselves, have walked the life of an addict.
Keep your head up, and smile brightly in the faces of those who
do not understand. Don’t get caught into the trap when they don’t get it and allow it to derail you.
Do your best living each day trying to love yourself. This is
a concept that is completely lost while in the throes of addiction. If you are
sick and tired of being sick and tired, work hard to find a shred of love for
yourself and once you find it, hold on to it and do not let go for any reason. The
love you can find for yourself, no matter the amount, will prove to be an
endless fuel for recovery.
If you cannot, by any means, find that love for yourself
because you feel you have taken things too far, remember, without a doubt, that
you are embraced with God’s grace. Know that God loves you right where you are,
even if that’s in a dope house with a needle hanging from your arm.
No matter what…God
loves you.
And, If all else fails, know that I love you. No need to even question, I love you - and
use that thought as fuel until you can gain some of your own. I love you
without knowing you because I share your struggles, your thoughts, your doubts
and your shame. And I know you can make
it through. There will be times that you think you can't - but you can. Believe that.
If you are a
person who does not understand, I encourage you to educate yourself about
addiction and recovery. Knowledge is
power. Therefore, if you are knowledgeable on the topic of addiction, you can help
with your power instead of dragging someone down with your doubt. Spend more time highlighting the positives
and progress versus the bumps in the road and slips along the way. Most importantly,
don’t forget, no one is perfect and we are all, in fact, human and will all
make mistakes.
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